How to help your children turn the page after your divorce

On behalf of Bebout, Potere, Cox & Bennion, P.C. posted in divorce on Wednesday, June 28, 2017.

Divorce is a major life event that can be very disruptive to children in Michigan. One of the questions we often hear at Bebout, Potere, Cox & Bennion, P.C., concerns how newly separated couples can help their kids to move past their issues so they can experience an easier transition to their new lives.

Divorce is a form of trauma to kids. Your children have all sorts of emotions going through their minds like anxiety, grief and loss that can make it hard for them to function normally. Some kids keep their feelings bottled up inside which can cause them to act out and hurt others because they are distressed.

Identify the issues

You should pay close attention to your children and watch for signs of unusual behavior. Talk to your kids and ask them how they feel. You should explain to them that their feelings are normal, acceptable and encourage them to share them with you and their other parent often, states Psychology Today. Get them professional counseling to identify their issues so you can take appropriate actions to address them.

Spend more time with them

Children often blame themselves for their parents’ separation. Talk to your kids and explain to them that your situation is not their fault. They need to understand that not all parents stay married. Spend more time with them and be sure to include their other parent periodically, so they know and understand that it is possible for you all to remain a happy and healthy family.

The aftermath of divorce is hard on everyone. However, kids are the ones who experience the effects the most. Because they have little control over what is going on between you and your ex-spouse, they may have a tough time adjusting to life after divorce. Treating your kids with respect, keeping them informed of changes and encouraging them to be open and honest about their feelings can help you and their other parent ease their post-divorce transition. For more information on the subject, please visit our web page.