Preparing for mediation

On behalf of Bebout, Potere, Cox & Bennion, P.C. posted in divorce on Friday, January 27, 2017.

Divorce is one of the most stressful and emotional events a person experience, and it is one that many Michigan residents have gone or will go through at some point. However, there are ways to make it less painful for everyone involved.

Mediation is one avenue divorcing couples pursue to ease some of the anxiety, cost and contention of divorce. However, it is still a legal process, which can seem intimidating or confusing. Below are some ways you can prepare for mediation so that you have a better idea of what to expect.

Don’t expect everything to be resolved right away. It will likely take multiple sessions to address and resolve everything, particularly if you have children or somewhat significant assets.
Expect some confrontation and complications. Even in the most amicable divorces there is some disagreement. However, that doesn’t mean it has to instantly spiral into all-out war; the mediator will be there to keep things on track and help you work together to find a solution.
You — and your soon-to-be ex — will likely not agree on everything (or anything, initially). Take some time to consider the issues that are most important to you and the issues about which you are less passionate.
Be ready to have some input. Don’t just assume everything will work itself out or just give in at every tough spot. Your future depends on this settlement, so take it seriously and be an advocate for yourself.
But try to be flexible. Just as you expect your ex to compromise, you should be prepared to do the same in the interest of moving forward.
It is very likely that you will prefer or be ordered by the courts to go through mediation to resolve some or all of the issues related to the dissolution of your marriage. Being prepared can help you get the most out of this process and secure a fair, satisfactory divorce settlement.

For specific information on what you can expect as you navigate the process of divorce, you can talk to your attorney.