Tips for dealing with a high conflict divorce

On behalf of Bebout, Potere, Cox & Bennion, P.C. posted in divorce on Friday, December 8, 2017.

Couples who are going through a high conflict divorce in Michigan may have an easier time if they are more prepared for what to expect. Any divorce is difficult, but dealing with intense emotions and a non-negotiating spouse can inflate the challenges along the way.

The Huffington Post recommends treating the process like a hostage negotiation. In fact, mediation is sometimes the best way to resolve a divorce because the mediator helps keep things civil. Each partner is encouraged to treat each other with respect, stay calm and use active listening skills. The divorce mediator can keep emotions in check and guide the couple through tough topics such as child custody.

Couples that have children need to be especially aware of how their conflict can affect the kids. According to the Boston Evening Therapy Associates, the divorce process can affect the child’s emotional development. When the parents pit themselves against each other, show their emotions in front of their kids and share conflicting messages, the child can struggle with self worth and intimacy for the rest of their life.

In order to keep the negative effects of the divorce to a minimum, parents should work on cooperative parenting. This takes planning and positive communication between both parents while keeping disagreements to times when the children are not present. Therapy can also help children deal with the emotions they experience during the divorce process. Depending on the age of the child, they may benefit from therapy in the form of drama, art or play.

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